Laughing at the Illusions

A girl is smiling and looking up, her head covered in a white hood. A graphic of thought symbols is visible next to her mind.

Dreams and illusions, fears and worries, are all in your mind. We believe what we want to believe – and then we have to un-believe what is untrue. 

The videos listed below are a reminder to laugh, wonder, and explore possibilities. Notice these stories, where they came from, and what roles you are playing in them. What roles do others play in them? Notice the stages of belief and disbelief. Laugh – and move on. 

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LAUGH! Don't Believe Everything You See

The Carbanaro Effect | Watch these hilarious videos that are the best reminders of gaslighting, illusions, people’s beliefs, and a reminder to laugh.  (Laughter does good like a medicine)

Stop Negative Thoughts

Identifying Codependent Behaviors

Overcoming Hopelessness


Uncertainty to Certainty

Keeping Your Wits About You

At times it appears that it will be impossible to know where or who the real enemy is. People are pointing fingers at each other and things. It’s rarely what you think it is.

We’ll first identify historical patterns that have a tendency to repeat themselves and then learn what it takes to stay sane in an insane world.

Recognizing Why It Hurts So Much

Helping Myself by Helping Others

Noticing and Reality


Noticing – Notice your reactions to the news, to what you read, what others tell you, what you want to believe versus what they want you to believe.


Exist in harmony next to those who are closest to you. Be unique, be in sync, free-flowing, powerful. Beautiful.

Understanding Our Emotions

Changing Our Thoughts

Self Care (Imagine that!)

Healthy Growth and Self Love

Safe People and Self-Sabotage

Laughter Does Good - Like Medicine!

Shame and Empathy

Becoming Mindful and Learning to Notice

The Importance of Sleeping

The Importance of Dreaming

The Art of the Metaphor

The PDF downloads show various trees, rocks/minerals in all their glory and curiosity. Look at them and notice what emotions they evoke, if you resonate with one or more over others. Why? That’s the power of a metaphor. It goes beyond words and explains feelings. Notice what words, stories, or explanations that .you use to express those feelings

Opening Your Eyes to the Lessons in Metaphors


  1. Is there a thought or belief that was planted by someone else that has you effectively doubting yourself or leaving you paralyzed?
  2. Have you ever been in the position where you gave up your own right to make decisions in order to be led somewhere where you didn’t want to be?
  3. Have you felt like you were just “dinner” for others to make them feel better and believed that you didn’t matter? Have you wondered why you are helpless to defend yourself or set healthy boundaries?


  1. What person/people/thoughts, have you allowed into your life that are pushing out what is precious to you?
  2. Are you finding that you are devoting more time and energy to this parasite than you are to what truly matters to you?
  3. Have you lost contact with people or other things in your life that you have enjoyed or that made you happy?
  4. What has gotten in the way and consumed your time and energy?


  1. If your life was the mansion, what would a visitor find in it?
  2. What thoughts/judgments or opinions have you noticed while watching the video?
  3. What have you learned about YOURSELF while watching this video? (Didn’t notice anything about yourself? Reflect back on your thoughts, opinions, feelings, and if you experienced curiosity, anxiety, or any other emotion.)


  1. While watching this particular video, practice noticing what thoughts or emotions rise up for you while watching each item as it is being placed in the grinder.
  2. Did one type of object matter more than another to you while being destroyed?
  3. What emotions did you experience while watching? Giddiness? Curiosity? Anxiety? (etc.) Why is that?
  4. What did each object remind you of?


Metaphors can help you reframe the stories and emotions of things that you are feeling, experiencing, or that have happened to you.

By not focusing on the actual story, but what that story represents to you, you can change the narrative and replace it with a metaphor that will give you power over your peace of mind and your recovery. Try it!

Making Peace with Forgiveness

Taming the Monkey Mind

NOTE: Excellent videos on taming the monkey mind can be found on Dr. Graham McDowell’s YouTube Channel. Highly recommend. Especially if you struggle with anxiety.

Embracing the Power of You

THE SET-UP for the next two videos is a video that illustrates, in a powerful way, what it is like when you have been limited in your freedom, ability to think, or discover yourself.

Unchecked belief systems weigh heavily on your ability to move or function. At this point, only outside help is going to be able to move the mountain of manure produced by your captivity in this small space.

Specialized skill sets are needed to strategically remove that which has become overgrown in your heart and mind, preventing you from experiencing a full life and freedom.

This healing process takes time and a loving support system. As you feel your freedom and strength return, you’ll be in the right place to embrace the power of YOU.

Re-examining Your Memories

Know the Patterns!

One of the leading authorities on understanding narcissism, setting boundaries, and recovery from narcissistic abuse.

Once you understand the behaviors and belief systems behind narcissism, you’ll be better equipped to set boundaries, heal, and navigate the journey to wholeness.

Scriptural Reminder to Renew Your Mind

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
8Finally, brothers, and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. ht, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Philippians 4:8

So I turned my mind to understand, to investigate, and to search out wisdom and the scheme of things and to understand the stupidity of wickedness and the madness of folly.

Ecclesiastes 7:25

The tongue has the power of life and death,
and those who love it will eat its fruit.

Proverbs 18:21