Reading, Sharing, Discussing, Learning ... Together
Explore books that help us see ourselves, others, and everyday life from a fresh perspective. We gather online to listen, discuss, ask questions, and share what we’re noticing. Come with your curiosity—you’re welcome to join at your own pace.
Every Monday at 11:00 AM Mountain Time
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It's Not You
by Dr. Ramani Durvasula | INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER
From clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic relationships Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a guide to protecting and healing yourself from the daily harms of narcissism. | CLICK TO READ MORE ABOUT THIS BOOK
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We read each chapter along with the Audible version over Zoom.
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ABOUT THIS BOOK
It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
It’s not always easy to tell when you’re dealing with a narcissistic person. One day they draw you in with their charm and charisma, the next they gaslight you, wreck your self-esteem, and leave you wondering, What should I have done differently? As Dr. Ramani explains in It’s Not You, the answer is: absolutely nothing.
Just as a tiger can’t change its stripes, a narcissist will not stop manipulating and invalidating you, no matter how much you try to appease them. The first step toward healing from their toxic influence—and to protect yourself from future harm—is to accept that you are not to blame for their behavior.
Drawing on more than two decades of studying the landscape of narcissism and working with survivors, Dr. Ramani explores how narcissists hijack our well-being and offers a healing path forward. Unpacking the oft-misunderstood personality, she reveals the telltale behavioral patterns that indicate you may be dealing with a narcissist. Along the way, you’ll learn how to become gaslight resistant, chip away at the trauma bonds that keep you stuck in the cycle, grieve the loss of these painful relationships, create and maintain realistic boundaries, discern unhelpful behaviors from narcissistic behaviors, and recover your sense of self after constant invalidation.
Thriving after, or even during, a narcissistic relationship can be challenging, but It’s Not You shows you it is possible. Dr. Ramani invites you to stop blaming yourself and trying to change the narcissistic person, and to start giving yourself permission to let go of their hold on you and finally embrace your true self.
WHAT YOU CAN EXPECT
Book Circles meet online over Zoom to explore a book together, one chapter at a time. After we say hello, we listen to the chapter’s audiobook narration, pause for discussion, and share what we’re noticing.
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A relaxed, welcoming atmosphere.
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Questions, fresh perspectives, and shared discoveries.
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Meetings lasting approximately 60–90 minutes.
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Freedom to listen quietly or join the conversation.
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Respect for your privacy and your pace—you choose what to share.
You’re welcome to join while a book is underway. Reading along between gatherings can help you follow the discussion, but you don’t need to have all the answers—or finish the book—to begin.