The world around you, that you live in, is the world that you have created with your thoughts, perceptions and decisions based upon those thoughts. How you react to situations in your life determine the outcome, not the situation or event in itself.
Food for Thought
12 Bite-sized Nuggets to Chew On
- The Gift of Fear – When has fear been a gift to you in avoiding a dangerous or toxic situation? If action is not your reaction and you find yourself paralyzed, then where is the gift of fear? The perception of what it means to fear is what needs reframing, not fear itself.
- Victim or Victor? – Victims have no hope of escape. Victors control their outcomes by taking action. Which fits the moment you find yourself in when experiencing fear?
- Anxiety or Excitement? – Both have the same energy, but each has a different perception. Anxiety is a fear of failure. Excitement is the expectation of success. Same energy … different outcomes.
- Reframe Your thoughts by asking more effective questions. For instance, “I’m afraid I’m going to die” Reframe to: “I’m thankful that I’m alive and have the opportunity to overcome this situation.” In addition, ask if this is the truth – how can you know it is the truth? What steps do I need to take to make sure that the outcome is a desired one? – Both approaches help you to reclaim your desired outcome and reframe your perception of what that will be.
- Uncover the lie – Notice what the thought is that is creating the paralyzing fear. Many times, it is not a well-defined thought but more of an energetic rush that we don’t know what to do with, so we “fill-in-the-blanks” with the worse-case scenarios that we can think of. All are just stories and lies – and it takes practice to stop spinning these toxic tales.
- What if? – Ask “What if” (in the positive) rather than asking “What if” (in the negative). Example: “What if … I lose everything?” instead of, ask, “What if … I gain more by releasing this?”
- Where did the lie come from? – Different groups of people experience similar fears; races of people, economic levels, women, etc. Living within ‘inherited fears’ is familiar from the time we are very young. These are generational fears and are taught to us by observing others and listening to what they fear the most. Recognize where a certain fear-based thought is saying, and unpack the truth accordingly. Rather than remaining a victim to this inherited fear, take action to change your outcome.
- Attitude – What role does INgratitude play – versus GRATITUDE? Are you focusing on what you are going to lose, or don’t have? Or are you grateful (and focused) on what you have and can obtain?
- Victim mentality – has a payoff – it is the result of choices and beliefs. For instance, the pay-off might be simply because the feeling is familiar. Or, the pay-off is to not be responsible for the outcome or to blame someone else for the troubles. Either way – being a victim keeps you paralyzed and under the control of others.
- Unpack it! Visualize a stack of cafeteria plates. Taking off the “plates” to uncover the truth which is at the bottom of the stack. (the REAL reason why there is paralysis) – Ask more effective questions … and asking again. “Why?” is a good question to repeat for uncovering the next question (or excuse.)
- Truth – Jesus said that we would know the truth, and the truth would set us free. This is what truth does. It sets us free. Lies burden us with shame, guilt, hopelessness, and despair. Is it true? Does it benefit me? Will it prolong my life? How can I know it is true?
- Duration – Is it a season, or a life sentence?