Identifying what a people-pleaser is ...

Not sure if you or someone you know is a people-pleaser? Here are three links to some online quizzes to help you understand where you stand regarding this behavior.

PLEASE NOTE: These are a few samples of some of the tests I found online. These various websites may offer a complete test on the page, or contain pop-ups or request you to subscribe to a newsletter or a free consultation to gain access to your results.

These tests are in no way my recommendations but are HELPFUL in identifying a few behaviors and thoughts that come with being a people-pleaser.

Buzzfeed Online People Pleasing Test:   HOW MUCH OF A PEOPLE-PLEASER ARE YOU?
(this one ends with an invitation for a free consultation)

Supportive Videos

Foundational Book

“When Pleasing You is Killing Me”
by Dr. Les Carter

 YouTube Channel / Website

Are you one who likes to keep the peace even when it comes to a high emotional price for yourself?

Do your attempts to resolve differences with a controller leave you feeling wrung out and discouraged?

Do you sense that your best traits (goodness, kindness, cooperation) somehow become a disadvantage with an overbearing counterpart?

These questions and many more are addressed in the book When Pleasing You Is Killing Me.


This is where you get to ask questions, and share your thoughts, or share something that you think will help someone else that you have experienced in your own journey and experiences as it applies to people-pleasing and/or narcissistic behaviors. Share your comments below …

One thought on “Are you a People-Pleaser?

  1. Good food for thought….as always. I’ve been a pleaser for as long as I can remember, but have paid the price for it too. After taking one of the quizzes, I was glad to see that I’m only a 38% people pleaser. I know the lessons are paying off and I’m learning to be more balanced in my self care and caring for others. Biggest lesson is that if I truly want to take good care of others, I must be healthy myself first. I feel like I have so far to go, but the light is getting brighter and brighter along the way. So thankful for Circles Groups. What a Godsend!

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