The world around you, that you live in, is the world that you have created with your thoughts, perceptions and decisions based upon those thoughts. How you react to situations in your life determine the outcome, not the situation or event in itself.
Food for Thought
Which wolf are you feeding?
This ancient Indian word-of-wisdom shows us that we are not alone in the war we find ourselves fighting on a daily basis, sometimes moment-by-moment.
As you read each of the following thoughts, consider how your own perceptions are shaping the world around you.
The following scripture verses are available below to print the page in order to place on a wall, mirror or where you know that you will see it often and be reminded of God’s promise to you.
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12 Bite-sized Nuggets to Chew On
- The Gift of Fear – When has fear been a gift to you in avoiding a dangerous or toxic situation? If action is not your reaction and you find yourself paralyzed, then where is the gift of fear? The perception of what it means to fear is what needs reframing, not fear itself.
- Victim or Victor? – Victims have no hope of escape. Victors control their outcomes by taking action. Which fits the moment you find yourself in when experiencing fear?
- Anxiety or Excitement? – Both have the same energy, but each has a different perception. Anxiety is a fear of failure. Excitement is the expectation of success. Same energy … different outcomes.
- Reframe Your thoughts by asking more effective questions. For instance, “I’m afraid I’m going to die” Reframe to: “I’m thankful that I’m alive and have the opportunity to overcome this situation.” In addition, ask if this is the truth – how can you know it is the truth? What steps do I need to take to make sure that the outcome is a desired one? – Both approaches help you to reclaim your desired outcome and reframe your perception of what that will be.
- Uncover the lie – Notice what the thought is that is creating the paralyzing fear. Many times, it is not a well-defined thought but more of an energetic rush that we don’t know what to do with, so we “fill-in-the-blanks” with the worse-case scenarios that we can think of. All are just stories and lies – and it takes practice to stop spinning these toxic tales.
- What if? – Ask “What if” (in the positive) rather than asking “What if” (in the negative). Example: “What if … I lose everything?” instead of, ask, “What if … I gain more by releasing this?”
- Where did the lie come from? – Different groups of people experience similar fears; races of people, economic levels, women, etc. Living within ‘inherited fears’ is familiar from the time we are very young. These are generational fears and are taught to us by observing others and listening to what they fear the most. Recognize where a certain fear-based thought is saying, and unpack the truth accordingly. Rather than remaining a victim to this inherited fear, take action to change your outcome.
- Attitude – What role does INgratitude play – versus GRATITUDE? Are you focusing on what you are going to lose, or don’t have? Or are you grateful (and focused) on what you have and can obtain?
- Victim mentality – has a payoff – it is the result of choices and beliefs. For instance, the pay-off might be simply because the feeling is familiar. Or, the pay-off is to not be responsible for the outcome or to blame someone else for the troubles. Either way – being a victim keeps you paralyzed and under the control of others.
- Unpack it! Visualize a stack of cafeteria plates. Taking off the “plates” to uncover the truth which is at the bottom of the stack. (the REAL reason why there is paralysis) – Ask more effective questions … and asking again. “Why?” is a good question to repeat for uncovering the next question (or excuse.)
- Truth – Jesus said that we would know the truth, and the truth would set us free. This is what truth does. It sets us free. Lies burden us with shame, guilt, hopelessness, and despair. Is it true? Does it benefit me? Will it prolong my life? How can I know it is true?
- Duration – Is it a season, or a life sentence?
“Do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear. Life is more than food, and the body more than clothes. Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn, yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds! Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest?”
“The Lord is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid?”
“Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous fall.”
“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”
“’For I am the Lord, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you. Do not be afraid, for I myself will help you,’ declares the Lord, your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel.”
“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble.”
“The Lord is with me; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me? The Lord is with me; he is my helper.”
“Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.”
“He got up, rebuked the wind and said to the waves, “Quiet! Be still!” Then the wind died down and it was completely calm. He said to his disciples, “Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?”
“The angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear him, and he delivers them.”
1 Peter 3:14
“But even if you suffer for doing what is right, God will reward you for it. So don’t worry or be afraid of their threats.”
“I prayed to the Lord, and he answered me. He freed me from all my fears.”
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
“When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.”
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
“Peace is what I leave with you; it is my own peace that I give you. I do not give it as the world does. Do not be worried and upset; do not be afraid.”
2 Timothy 1:7
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”
1 John 4:18
“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”
“When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul.”
“But now, this is what the Lord says…Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.”
“An anxious heart weighs a man down, but a kind word cheers him up.”
“Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.”
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
“Humble yourselves, then, under God’s mighty hand, so that he will lift you up in his own good time. Leave all your worries with him, because he cares for you.”
“Tell everyone who is discouraged, Be strong and don’t be afraid! God is coming to your rescue…”
“Do not be afraid of them; the Lord your God himself will fight for you.”
“Then he placed his right hand on me and said: ‘Do not be afraid. I am the First and the Last.’”
“Jesus told him, ‘Don’t be afraid; just believe.’
“And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love.”
The Lord your God is in your midst, A victorious warrior. He will exult over you with joy, He will be quiet in His love, He will rejoice over you with shouts of joy.”
“He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.”…He will cover you with his feathers, and under his wings you will find refuge; his faithfulness will be your shield and rampart. You will not fear the terror of night, nor the arrow that flies by day, nor the pestilence that stalks in the darkness, nor the plague that destroys at midday. A thousand may fall at your side, ten thousand at your right hand, but it will not come near you…For he will command his angels concerning you, to guard you in all your ways…“Because he loves me,” says the Lord, “I will rescue him; I will protect him, for he acknowledges my name. He will call upon me, and I will answer him; I will be with him in trouble, I will deliver him and honor him…”